"REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES"

"Real women have curves"


oh i cannot tell you enough how much i hate this quote. i dont just "dislike it", i dont just "kinda get annoyed by it", no. I HATE IT.

i am so sick of the media telling us smaller women that we arent real, that we are photoshopped, that "dogs only go for bones". i am also sick of the media telling women that being skinny is the only thing that you should be as women. that you have to have the perfect body, the flattest abs, the perfect butt, etc. YOU ARE NOT PERFECT. and you want to know what the most amazing this is about that?! its that NO ONE IS PERFECT. even the most "perfect" looking people in your eyes, have issues, insecurities, and imperfections and that is what makes us, US! 

you want to know what real women are?! real women are inventors, mothers, bloggers, shoppers, hairstylists, teachers, math brains, scientists, animal lovers, chefs, car enthusiasts, models, fitness stars, they are HUMAN. they are EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING IN BETWEEN, and if there is anything i can teach my daughter, is that she is a real woman no matter what she decides to do in life, no matter who she decides she wants to be, what she wants to do with her hair, whatever she decides in life, she is a real woman. cause guess what? I was a real woman when i was at 8% body fat, and extremely unhealthy, i was a real woman when i was at 13% body fat and at my most healthy "fit body", i was a real woman when i was healing from and emotional trauma and wasnt looking "my best" and I AM A REAL WOMAN NOW.

YOU ARE A REAL WOMAN

 whether you are "thick", "thin", short, tall, black, white, asian, mexican, polynesian, latina, aussie, european, have short hair, have long hair, have tattoos, have no peircings, NO MATTER WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE YOU ARE A REAL WOMAN.

my only hope is for people to be aware and proud that they are a woman in. so much pressure is put on us to be a certain way, to look a certain way, or to act a certain way, and i say SCREW THAT. do what you love, dress how you feel the most confident, read books and be proud of being a "nerd" if thats your thing, at the same time be proud that you hate reading, that you would much rather see the movie than read the book, be a cat lover, be a dog lover, dont own a animal all together, it literally does not matter what you choose to do, YOU DO YOU.

my absolute favorite quote about women being women is by Hanne Blank, and it says 

"Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise."

So be proud of being who you are, be proud of how others are, because to me, a REAL woman, empowers others.

xoxo leilani